What if you had a blueprint with the questions to ask the person you’re dating to determine if you’re equally yoked?
The Dating Guide was created to help you do just that.
With over 150 questions, these conversation starters will help you date with intention & purpose in your search for a Godly spouse and a marriage full of blessings.
Why you need The Dating Guide
Help you screen for character, values, and compatibility
Get to know each other on a more personal level
Figure out if you’re equally yoked
Open the doors to talk about difficult topics like mental health, past relationships, and future goals
Help you figure out what you’re looking for in a future spouse (and if the person you’re dating has the characteristics and values you’re looking for!)
Spot potential red and green flags to discern if you want to move forward in the relationship towards engagement and marriage
Help you figure out and share what you bring to a relationship
Establish expectations for your future marriage
Don’t waste time dating the wrong people!
This guide will help you choose a spouse compatible with you and the life & marriage you’re praying for.
It will transform your dating life and point your relationship to Christ so that you can work on building a strong foundation for marriage.
What’s inside the guide
In this 40+ page downloadable PDF (print it or view it on your phone!), you’ll get instant access to —
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150+ Questions
In The Dating Guide, you’ll cover things like your expectations for your future spouse, what it would be like to be married to each other and past relationships. We’ve divided up the questions into twelve categories:
Lifestyle
Spiritual life
Work & hobbies
Health
Personal finance
Marriage & finances
Relationships
Future
Dating
Marriage
Family life
Once you complete this guide, you’ll have clarity on the type of values, character and goals each of you has and whether you’re compatible for a future together.
You’ll also have a better idea of what marriage would look like for the two of you, and what life together will be like if you chose to get married to each other.
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Workbook
We’ve also included worksheets in each category to help you reflect on your conversations & figure out if you’re equally yoked and help you prepare for a Godly, strong marriage.
Hi, we’re
Daniel & Yelena!
We met, dated, got engaged and married within six months. We talked about each of the questions included in The Dating Guide before we got married and we think it is a major reason why we were able to choose each other so easily and now have a beautiful, Godly, strong marriage (also, a lot of prayer & wise counsel!).
Neither of us did any casual dating before we got married, but instead prayed and waited for God’s provision and timing while we stayed busy going to school, working, serving in our local church, and letting God prepare us for each other.
So, when we met at ages 26 (Daniel) and 29 (Yelena) and started to get to know each other, we knew what we wanted out of a marriage and how to “vet” each other to determine if we would be equally yoked.
We are so passionate about equipping young people with the resources and knowledge to prepare for a Godly marriage. That’s what lead us to start a ministry focused on helping Christians find a spouse, Seek in Faith, through which we lead dating seminars for youth groups around the country.
For our day jobs, Daniel works in marketing and sales for John Deere and Yelena is a tax attorney at an accounting firm. We live in Indiana with our son, Levi, and we are so excited to come alongside you in your search for a Godly mate!
FAQs
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Ideally, yes! The Dating Guide includes worksheets for personal reflection in addition to the questions you’ll discuss together. We recommend you each get a copy of the guide so you can write your thoughts in your own copies.
Also, if you choose to part ways and decide to not get engaged after these conversations, you’ll each have a copy for your next relationship :)
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These questions will help you vet each other as potential future spouses & determine if you’re compatible for marriage. After all, if you’re dating with the intention of marriage, you are seeking to fill the most important role in your life: the person who, God willing, you’ll spend a lifetime with and who will be the parent to any children God may give you. So, of course, you want the best candidate to fill the role. This guide is your interview manual to start the conversations that will help prepare you for a strong, Godly marriage.
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It’s never too early to start having having these conversations. Dating should be fun and romantic, but for Christians, it should also be done in reverence and wisdom. That means prayerfully having the conversations to determine if you two are headed towards marriage and what marriage to each other would look like. We created The Dating Guide to help you start these conversations at any point in your relationship.
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It’s not about the pages, but the value you get from having these conversations. Because time is money - we want to help you not your waste time dating the wrong people. Also, being married to someone you’re not equally yoked with makes for a hard life. These conversations will help you make sure you’re compatible for marriage.
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Yes! But also make sure you get on our email list below for updates on another resource we’re working specifically for engaged couples.
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Yes! These questions are just as much to help you vet the person you’re dating as they are to help you get clarity on what you want in a future spouse and marriage, what you bring to a relationship, and areas were you can maybe prepare more for marriage. That way, when you do meet someone, you know exactly what you’re looking for and if that person is compatible with what you’re praying for in a spouse and marriage.